You’re getting married! You have the Prince Charming, the shiny ring, and now you’re on your way to happily ever after! But first you have to plan you’re big day….oh oh, where should you start?
There’s a lot to think about and you want everything to be perfect. Dress, venue, centrepieces, photography – these things will become part of your regular vocabulary over the months you plan your wedding. Here are some steps that will help you get started:
Dream Big: Your perfect day
What does your day look like? Is it small and intimate? Are you in a church? On a beach? Is there candle light? Are you surrounded by three hundred of your closest friends and family?
Take out bridal books and magazines from the library, search the internet. Weddingbee.com is one of my favourite places to check for inspiration, ideas, and reviews. They even have a classifieds section for people selling wedding goodies!
Go to bridal shows and get inspired. Take pictures and write down ideas that you really like, don’t worry about mixing and matching everything – just make a note of it!
You might want to put together a vision board, a wedding inspiration board or some other scrapbook/visual presentation of your dream day so you can put it all together in your head. Sometimes seeing all the separate pieces together in one place can help get the creativity flowing.
Sit down with your fiancée and brainstorm what you envision for your big day, think big (or as big as you want your day to be).
Don’t worry about things like what your family wants, what the budget is, or whether this or that venue is booked for the next two years – just dream. There will be plenty of time to work through the realities of wedding planning.
Let’s Talk Numbers: The good, the bad, the bridal
Once you have your ideal dress, decorations, location, photographer, and other details – now is the time to start talking facts and numbers. This is the part where you have to be really honest about what you can do with the people, money, and assets you have available to you. Unless your last name is Hilton or a Kardashian, you’re probably working with finite resources.
If you believe your family or friends will help financially, now is the time to get some concrete numbers. This is not the time to play guess-whose-paying and book something – once those deposits go out, you won’t be able to get them back. This can be a sensitive subject to broach with people and I can’t cover it properly here, however you know your family and friends so use your best judgment.
Money is not the only way people can help out: tap into your friends’ and families’ hobbies and talents. Maybe your best friend likes scrapbooking and you think she’d like to help you make wedding invitations. Perhaps your Aunt that makes amazing birthday cakes would enjoy baking and decorating a wedding cake as a gift. Your grandparents have a beautiful summer place on the lake and that could possibly be the perfect place for your wedding. There are so many ways people can give and often they’ll be excited to help you in such a personal way. Your imagination is really the limit.
The process of figuring out what your budget is can take a while. But, once you’re clear on what you’re budget is for your wedding, now comes the fun part! Come back next week for part deux of Planning Your Fabulous Wedding on a Frugal Budget.
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